The piece also complains that Mystery goes up to too many women or somehow isn't selective enough about the ones he tries to start conversations with.
What these critics fail to realize is that they and society at large are engaging in an extremely similar behavior with widely used dating apps like Tinder, which often involve the same practice of swiping large numbers of people blindly. [But then these same critics will use a dating app like Tinder ]
And while it's true we may occasionally throw in a super like with a personalized, preemptive message — there's no denying a fair number of our matches and encounters depend on mass swiping sessions.
This is something which occurs in sales too, with most people being unwilling to entertain a cold call or sales pitch. But this analogy breaks down because in dating one shouldn't be trying to sell themselves or anything, not even a better life. But interestingly the percentages seem similar. Roughly 1% of interactions will end with a sold product or lasting connection. And with dating life, things do not have to be so calculated or results-driven. It's important to have fun with it, to enjoy the other person and whatever happens.
The idea that talking to people in person is cold & calculated is itself cynical. Conventional opinion today holds that dating apps are acceptable, but these apps typically involve a similar or even greater degree of impersonal screening. I can see no reason for preferring one means over the other.
I can even think of many negatives associated with online dating.
The opinion than pick up artists are inherently bad people is itself pejorative and a deeply rooted prejudice, a kind of hypocrisy and almost mass psychosis.
==> But it's random?
So are chance encounters at the bar or through friends, or online dating apps.
I will not be flustered in my unwavering defense.